In Search of a Fantastical Man

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“My life, my life has to be like this. It has to keep going up.” – Jay Gatsby In our 3D world populated by 2D lives, it was no surprise that Gatsby drew us back in again.  Whether you loved, hated or haven’t even seen yet the Luhrmannian whirlwind that was this year’s Great Gatsby, […]

Rules for the Young Single Man

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The time has come. After endless conversations with all too many men both younger and singler than me, it seems that some concise, friendly coaxing is not doing the job. Subtlety will not suffice. The pandemic of the Young Single Man (YSM) cannot be contained. How I have come to know and be in pointed […]

Tell the Story of a Spy; Tell It Well

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Every culture must have a methodology for telling the stories that encapsulate its mythology. American culture must, in this way, on a regular basis tell the story of a spy. Why is the spy so central to the iconology of the American myth? The spy captures all the great American characteristics–individualist, anti-establishment, morally-grey and driven […]

10 Things that Are (Already) Ruining 2013 & 3 That May Save It Yet

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In just a few short days it will be the unwelcome days February. Nothing particularly useful happens in February and that includes the imaginary holidays it contains (here’s looking at you Valentine’s Day). In the rhythm of my year, things won’t start perking up again until the Ides of March when I annually consider who […]

The Parent(hood) Trap

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Ok, women readers of Martinis Optional.  It’s about to get ugly up in here.  Really ugly.  I’m just warning you.  Consider this that inflammotory surgeon general thing on the box or that intrusive “Hey this is not really food” label that California wants to start putting on WheatThins.  Whatever the metaphor, just know, that I […]

End the Random Kindnesses

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“It is important to know that with adults, though there is continual development, there is not always improvement. There is change, but not necessarily growth.” – Dave Eggers, A Hologram for the King Today I was in a very lively and interesting conversation with some friends on the topic of what kinds of acts made […]

Cannibalism in the Name of Glory

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I have found myself stunningly and painfully stoic since the news of the mass murder in Newtown, Connecticut on Friday. Rather than the waves of verbose shock that have frolicked the halls of Twitter, CNN and the White House, instead a bone-hardening chill has settled in upon me. One that does not deny the incalcuable […]

On the Day They Chased You Home

As a part of the Sons of Silence Letters If you have not read the Sons of Silence Introduction, please begin there as it will make these posts make sense in context.  With so much being said about bullying, I imagined what my Dad would have wanted to say, had he known about all of […]

The Angry Men

The Angry Men

It seems that there are a lot of angry men these days.  They come from all walks of life, rich and poor, liberal and conservative, Christian and atheist, but some how these Y-chromosomes have their undies in a bundle over the state of things, and particularly how little they way things are is the way they […]

The Greatest Also-Ran

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Bummer.  That’s the “Love and Logic” word we use for Evan when he makes a bad choice.  Bummer.  Apparently the child therapy gods have convened and decided that anything more descriptive than that will cause irreparable harm.  Given the fact that the only childhood perma-scars that I’m aware of are my own, I’m willing to acquiesce to […]

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