Rules for the Young Single Man

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The time has come. After endless conversations with all too many men both younger and singler than me, it seems that some concise, friendly coaxing is not doing the job. Subtlety will not suffice. The pandemic of the Young Single Man (YSM) cannot be contained. How I have come to know and be in pointed […]

The Parent(hood) Trap

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Ok, women readers of Martinis Optional.  It’s about to get ugly up in here.  Really ugly.  I’m just warning you.  Consider this that inflammotory surgeon general thing on the box or that intrusive “Hey this is not really food” label that California wants to start putting on WheatThins.  Whatever the metaphor, just know, that I […]

The Unforgiving Past Recedes

Best Exotic

An Overstewed Homage to The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel This little speck of a film has been picking at my mind for nearly a month now.  And not just because I promised a blog response to it (though in part because of that), I find myself compelled to say something about the cautionary tale of a […]

On the Day You Tore Your Sunday Clothes

As a part of the Sons of Silence Letters If you have not read the Sons of Silence Introduction, please begin there as it will make these posts make sense in context. You and me – we’ve got a problem. Ok, I have a problem. You have torn corderoy pants. This problem that I have […]

A Prayer for the Sons of Silence

Abba Father, We are sons. We are men of some kind, though many days our masculinity seems so very far away. We are the sons of other men, our fathers, who made choices much like we’ve made. Perhaps it is better stated that we have made choices like they have made, and today, we wish […]

The Best Job I Ever Loved

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I grew up in that inbetween era.  Somewhere between that age when it was both common and expected that high schoolers and college students would find some brutish job to make their way through their summers (and sometimes year round) and the era that followed it where it is now considered a faux pas to […]

In Search of the Humble Wise

In Search of the Humble Wise

Last night began with an event witnessed by probably millions of well-intentioned Americans. The first of two Republican debates in less than eighteen hours was on ABC with highlights lowlights and commentary flittering about the intratwitterwebverse at a volume that disguised the meaninglessness of their content. There is a reason that there has never been […]

Not To Be Taken Seriously

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It was early Thursday morning that I dropped off my car at the illustrious teepee-like necessary evil known as Denver International Airport. I was the consummate business pro, carry on packed like Mary Poppins handbag, minimal stripping required through the security line, stepping out of my car door with a comfortable 45 minutes before take-off, […]

Opportunism: Halloween Style

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So it’s Halloween. Worst holiday ever invented. Yes, I know, it’s for the kids and they’re so cute and blah. My kids are cute in their normal clothes. Most kids are cute in their normal clothes. Many kids are not cute in Halloween costumes. In fact, they just look weird. Plasticky Darth Vader comstumes with […]

Everybody Gets a Trophy

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I want to risk a hypothesis.  One that will not be popular in certain circles and will most certainly not gel with the prevailing wisdom, but one that seems to be proving itself out with experience.  My hypothesis is this: a portion of our economic disparity is caused by an increasing population of people are […]

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